When encountering suicidal people, it’s important to dissuade them by speaking to them. The person needs to feel like other people care for them. Unfortunately, some people unintentionally say outlandish statements to suicidal people thinking they are helping. As a result, the suicidal person may begin to think even worse about themselves.

Now you are probably wondering about those things that you shouldn’t say to suicidal people. Worry not, as here are the statements below.

1.     “Others Have it Worse Than You”

The problem with this statement is that it minimizes the suicidal person’s pain. You are basically suggesting that their problems are not worthy of any attention. As a result, the suicidal person will experience feelings of guilt since you have told them their pain is meaningless.

Additionally, this statement demonstrates a lack of empathy. Even if you think their reason for committing suicide is silly, you should understand that individuals have different ways of handling stress. You can say you are there for them without addressing the event contributing to their suicidal thoughts.

2.     “Snap Out of It”

This statement demonstrates a lack of understanding of what suicide is. You cannot prevent suicide by simply snapping out of it like a switch. Suicide is a condition that requires professional help, support and treatment. Therefore, it is more productive to ask them to contact a suicide hotline number since they will receive help from experts.

Also, this statement places unnecessary pressure on the person to stop having suicidal thoughts. If they become unable to snap out of it, they are likely to experience feelings of guilt and hopelessness. These feelings will further push them to consider doing it.

3.     “You’re Just Seeking Attention”

Such a statement perpetuates stigma since there’s a negative connotation about seeking attention. Even if they were seeking attention, the person still needs assistance rather than condemnation. Furthermore, this statement assumes the only reason one would commit suicide is seeking attention. However, some do it because they’re convinced it’s the only way to solve their problems.

Another problem with this statement is that it discourages communication. Since you have concluded that the suicidal person is seeking attention, why should they discuss their reasons for being suicidal? After all, if they did you may judge them further.

4.     “Things Will Get Better”

First of all, there’s no way of knowing that things will get better unless God personally spoke to you. What if things get worse for the suicidal person? What will you say then? Such a person may consider the act once your ‘prediction’ doesn’t come to pass.

Ultimately, this statement doesn’t address the person’s current pain. What should they do in the meantime as they wait for things to get better? After all, waiting doesn’t necessarily solve the problem.

Conclusion

Too often, people are focused on what to say to the suicidal person to dissuade them. While speaking to them is important, you don’t want to inadvertently cause them to further lose hope. The most important thing you should do is ask them to seek professional help or  call a helpline. Of course, you should be with them because they may give up on the idea.